Revenge Websites Should Make Us All Think Twice About Sending Naughty Pics

vrijdag 13 september 2013

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by Jenny Erikson 14 hours ago

Lawmakers in California want to make revenge porn illegal. What’s revenge porn, you ask? If it sounds salacious, that’s because it is. Revenge porn is when a lover scorned publicizes all those sexy selfies you sent back when you were too busy seeing stars to see reality.

In other (more boring) words, revenge porn is the “sharing [of] nude photos or videos of a former significant other or love interest with the intent to embarrass them after breaking up.” And in today’s social media world, it’s becoming increasingly common.

If passed into law, jerks that post naked images of their exes (or anyone else) could be charged with a misdemeanor, and punished by up to six months in jail and a $1,000 fine. The key wording of the bill states that the material must have been shared “with the intent to cause serious emotional distress.”

Side note: I’ve done a boudoir photo shoot before. Those pics are currently in the possession of my ex. I probably wouldn’t press charges if he leaked them, because dayum! I looked super hawt thanks to MAC, an expert photographer, and Photoshop.

Anyway. While I agree that guys that try to slut shame their ex-girlfriends are icky and slimy and don’t make you question at all why that relationship didn’t work out, are they really criminals?

Ladies, here’s a piece of advice -- never hit send on anything that you wouldn’t mind the world seeing. Anything. You may think it’s totally private, but you’re forgetting one very important variable -- the recipient. You can’t control the person on the other end of your communication, and once you put something out there, it’s out there. Maybe only that one person will see it, or maybe a million will. Always assume a million.

So if you’re going to voluntarily send your squeeze some sexy pics, make sure they’re actually sexy and not just slutty. That way if they ever become public, you can roll your eyes and say, “Well that’s unfortunate; those were meant for his eyes only. But I do look pretty awesome, right?”

Because there are a lot of jerks out there, and law or no law, they will continue to be jerks that do jerky things. The best thing you can do is protect yourself. There’s only one way to definitively keep provocative nude photos of you from showing up on the Internet someday. Don’t take any.

Do you think the proposed law will help crack down on revenge porn?

Image via Victor1558/Flickr

Filed Under: censorship, crime, cyberbullying, feminism, in the news, law, politics, social media, women's issues, breakups, exes, sexuality Click "Like" for more on issues that are important to moms. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Jenny Erikson

is a conservative chick living in Southern California with her two daughters. She loves politics and hates laundry.

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Guy Gets Revenge on Cheating Lover With Best Craigslist Ad of All Time

zaterdag 3 augustus 2013

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by Maressa Brown 17 hours ago

Breaking up is hard. Getting over and coming to terms with a split can be even harder. Sometimes, we're tempted to go to extremes ... like selling our ex's possessions in a way that shames them and hangs aaallll their dirty laundry out to dry. That's exactly what one betrayed lover in San Francisco decided to do when he posted what might be the most hilarious, bitter, and painfully honest post-breakup Craigslist ad of all time.

The listing is for a $150 "plush-ass mattress," which will "get you to f**king REM and for 6-8 hours every night you'll forget that you're sleeping next to a sociopath." No wonder the poster clearly just wants it out of his life ...

The pain of my broken heart now means less back pain for you! This is basic law of transference type shit. I'm pretty sure the physics work out, but then again -- I paid my college roommate who was a scholarship student to do all my take-home exams so I can't be entirely sure.

So here's the deal: $150 and it's yours. No catch. Get this f**king mattress out of my life.

It's a plush queen-sized Simmons Beautyrest. It's three years old, and feels like you're sleeping on a f**king cloud -- even when you're unknowingly sleeping next to a lying cheater. In a bad relationship and have to lie next to the constant reminder that you didn't go to grad school so that you could move and get engaged? Then this is the bed for you, it will get you to f**king REM and for 6-8 hours every night you'll forget that you're sleeping next to a sociopath. There are no stains, and this thing hasn't seen action in a while.

I thought about giving it away for free, but then I figured, what the hell -- sell the bed, and go buy a Fleshjack and a handle of whiskey. And that's how I settled on $150. This thing is priced to move. It's worth much more than the price, and I figure that even someone who is looking at Craigslist on a Tuesday morning could easily afford it. So don't email me with your lowball offers. And don't agree to $150 and get to my house and offer $100. Because that would make you a lying cheater, and I would rather set the mattress on fire and throw it out of the window rather than sell it to you. Seriously, I will lose it.

Priority will go to those who can come get this literal bed of lies today, as I've got the entire Fiona Apple and Alanis Morissette discographies to get through.

And no, I won't help you get it out to your car. There are only eleven steps up to my apartment. You figure it out. I was going to sell the mattress for $200 but I figured it was worth the $50 to watch someone else have to struggle over this oppressive burden. Not a deal-breaker, but it would help immensely if you looked like my ex as I would love to see an entitled, Ivy-League-educated asshole struggle with this thing. But totally not necessary.

Wowwwww, right? But hey, there are a lot more horrible, unproductive, self-destructive ways to express your bitterness after a bad breakup. I'm actually all about someone trashing their ex in an anonymous way like this, where no one is really getting hurt. Heck, this guy's actually going to help a stranger out by selling them a fab mattress at a really low price. Well, maybe he will. The ad has since been removed from Craigslist. But with the kind of press his ranty posting has drawn, I wouldn't be surprised if his inbox is filled with offers for the bed ... and more!

What was your reaction to this angry ex's ad?

ABOUT THE AUTHOR Maressa Brown

has enjoyed reporting and writing for a variety of entertainment and women's magazines and websites. More often than not, you'll find her blogging, hitting the gym, reading, researching something on her iPhone, laughing, chatting at an above-"normal" volume, or getting her caffeine fix.

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Woman's Crazy Revenge on Cheating Husband Only Makes Her Look Bad

donderdag 18 juli 2013

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Cheaters. Ugh. They're just so vile. So selfish. So deserving of a massive Twitter rant. But you shouldn't do it. Much as you want to. Airing your dirty laundry in a massively public way may feel good in the moment, but months or years down the road, all that vitriol will still be there for your friends, family, children, and yourself to see -- and yet you've (hopefully) moved on. The problem with the Internet is that it doesn't move on. One very angry wife is going to learn this lesson someday. I don't blame the woman, who goes by the name "VeeVee" and who is married to a Silicon Valley hotshot named Scott Jones, for being spitting mad. When VeeVee, who is apparently pregnant, found out the father of her four other kids was supposedly having an affair with a coworker -- well, you know what they say about hell hath no fury!

VeeVee went on a tear on Twitter. And on her blog. She scalded her husband in language that will stand the hair on your neck on end. According to VeeVee's many, many tweets (her account has since been disabled), she was pregnant with the couple's fifth child when she discovered the affair. The other woman is also married.

VeeVee posted pics of the other woman -- and even the other woman's husband -- and went ape. Some examples:

- Ruff ruff. Wonder if your husband knows? That you blow your boss? And then kiss him afterwards? You're trifling good for nothing.

- Goddamnit she's so ugly it makes me feel ugly lol

- While I'm pregnant with his 5th baby, named after him, to save our marriage. He screws that ugly dog :-/ I'm so hurt & this is venting

- I think he has a sexual addiction. He's like a dog.

- What do you call a man marry a ghetto chic from Philly without a prenup & cheats on her? FUCKED That's what you should call him.

I feel for VeeVee. She's railing and with good cause.

But she gives no absolute proof that it's happening. We don't know his side of the story.

And why would you want your kids to see all of this stuff online?

It's really, really difficult not to want to share it with the world when someone has hurt you. As someone who wrote a memoir about a breakup, believe me, I know. But I also didn't reveal my ex's name or face. I even showed the book to him before it was published and told him he could make changes. There's a long history of heartbreak in art, be it poems, books, movies, or songs, so I'm not suggesting that it not be the basis for a cathartic outpouring. (Taylor Swift wouldn't be in business otherwise.)

But the Internet is not art.

Raw emotions unfiltered and uncensored and thrown up on Twitter or your personal blog can never be totally erased -- even if you erase them. Unfortunately stuff like this makes the cheated-on party look worse than the cheater. In fact, according to one of VeeVee's tweets, her husband and his supposed mistress were filing harassment charges against her. See? Now she's the one in trouble! Ugh.

It would be nice if we had laws against cheating, wouldn't it? Then the cheater could do a little time in jail and you'd get some satisfaction without having to take your pain to the masses. Yet adultery isn't illegal (at least in most states) and no-fault divorce means cheaters don't ever get punished in court either. But if it's true that VeeVee doesn't have a pre-nup, hopefully she can take him to the cleaners.

Sigh. How to punish them? How to hurt them back? You can't really. It sucks. At the end of the day, you have to trust karma will get them. Or you can write a song. Maybe it becomes a big hit, you make a lot of money, and then you buy the building your ex lives in and toss him on the street.

Is there an acceptable way to get back at a cheat?

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