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by Mary Fischer 1 hour ago
Wow. Parents who choose to use a gestational carrier as a means of bringing their children into the world must really, really want to have kids -- or so you'd assume.
But wait until you hear what happened to a woman named Susan Ring, because it might change the way you think about the process forever.
Susan is a surrogate who was pregnant with twin babies -- and wound up giving birth and taking them home with her after their parents decided they did not want them anymore.
You see, when Susan was about 14 weeks along with the couple's babies, she found out they were divorcing -- and didn't want to continue on with the contract for the pregnancy any longer.
(Seriously? These are their BABIES. What is wrong with these people?)
As you will hear Susan explain to HuffPost Live, she'd already carried one child for the couple, a son -- who is the biological brother of the babies the parents did not want -- so she never expected to run into any issues with carrying for them a second time around.
Do you believe this? I'm sorry, but I just can't excuse this couple for abandoning their children the way they did. How are they going to go through the rest of their lives knowing they have two biological babies out there who they wanted at one point and then suddenly changed their minds? It's bound to haunt them someday. I don't know how it can't.
But that brings us back to Susan, who I can't praise enough for making the tough decision to keep these twins and raise them as her own. Considering she'd been a surrogate before, she knows all too well what it's like to go through nine months of pregnancy only to have to part with the babies after they are born.
Giving them up can't be easy, but since she knew they were not technically hers and were going to good homes, I'm sure it lessened the heartache a bit. But these babies were different. Susan wouldn't have known where they would eventually wind up and who their parents would be -- and the thought of wondering about them as the years went on obviously isn't something she could live with.
I remember how attached I grew to my son while he was growing in my womb. Even though he's biologically mine, I can imagine that gestational carriers are perfectly capable of forming a similar bond with the babies they are carrying. Since the couple wound up giving up the twins when Susan was only 14 weeks along, I'm guessing she somehow started to think of them as hers, which made her more attached to them than to other babies she's carried in the past.
As difficult as this entire ordeal may have been for her, I hope she knows that she did the right thing -- just as any mother would do for babies she's loved and housed for an entire pregnancy. And I hope those precious twins will realize just how lucky they are to have been born to a woman who wants nothing but the best for them, even if she isn't the one who decided to create them in the first place.
Do you think Susan did the right thing? What would you have done in her situation?
Image via HuffPost Live

is the writer behind The Mommyologist, and the mom of a future famous comedian. Her current loves include cosmopolitans, reality TV, and shoes that don't pinch her feet.
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